“When a caterpillar hatches from its egg, it devotes itself to eating. When it knows it has had enough, it stops eating and begins to spin its cocoon. Inside the cocoon, its body dissolves. All the ingredients needed to transform itself into a butterfly are already there.” – Laurie Blefeld, Moments of Grace

For the first time in human history, people on every continent, in every nation are being asked to self-isolate and practice social distancing. We are tucked inside a cocoon spun by a collective whirl. In the sudden grounding of all the world’s airlines, canceling of all community events from sports to funerals, shuttering of shops and restaurants, closing of schools and workplaces, humanity as a whole (with the exception of medical and essential workers) has become still and quiet. In some ways, it feels to us as if everyone is standing in representation in a Systemic Constellation facing or resisting the process of dissolution and transformation.

On the physical level as human bodies, we are practicing distance and isolation. Many of those we speak with – though distraught by the suffering brought on by illness and loss of income – are recognizing that in their recent frenzy of work, family and social life, their movements through life were like a tractor-trailer full of loose billiard balls hurtling down a mountain road. In our pre-pandemic lives, we became acclimated to colliding into one another without truly connecting, liking Facebook posts as a form of friendship, swiping left and right without truly seeing or knowing each other. How often did we hug and shake hands, without fully connecting with the person we were greeting? How often did we go out to a restaurant and spend more time reading the menu, talking about the food, drinking the wine, or taking in the ambiance rather than truly being with the person we are dining with?

From a Seeing with Your Heart perspective, social distancing takes on an entirely new meaning. In the chaos of modern life, we have become distant from our own capacity to connect with our true selves and inner compass, our beloved community and sacred Earth, and our ancestors, guides, and the cosmic Universe at large. Without a moment to close our eyes and breathe into the stillness of our body, we forget that we have one of the most magnificent, refined, and attuned organs of perception – the human heart – that can traverse space and time.

This pandemic has required that we stop moving about pinging against one another and begin growing quiet and tuning-in to all that is moving within and around us. In our work together over the past 8 years, we have discovered the veracity and depth of heart-centered communication and its capacity to explore the most subtle pathways of ordinary, ancestral, and spiritual consciousness and have the most transformational impact.

• Human: A 35-year-old mother of 3 young children falls off the cliff of heavy addiction and psychosis and disappears from her family. After months of searching, her sister comes to us for a Constellation. Shortly afterwards, in an extraordinary series of lucky coincidences, she is found wandering the streets of a small Southern city 500 miles away. She returns home and successfully completes a 90-day rehab and recovery program.
• Ancestral: A woman suffering from a paralyzing anxiety and corrosive shame meets her grandmother’s mother in the liminal space of her Constellation. She discovers that these feelings do not belong to her but originated in her great-grandmother’s traumatic childhood. Through the portal of the back doors of her heart, the two connect. The anxiety and shame dissipate, and the woman discovers her great-grandmother has become a loving companion who showers her with blessings and opens her life to new possibilities.
• Spirit: We place a representative for a client’s “wild nature” in a large group Constellation. As this rep steps back, first into the realm of ancestors and then further back into the archetypal/symbolic realm where mythic figures become embodied. The Sumerian God Enki and Goddess Inanna channel into the room. To the sound of sacred drumming, we embark on a conscious journey into the mythological origins of sexual abuse, war and the displacement of the feminine. We connect to the wisdom of what it means to be human, with everyone receiving their own lesson and no one fully understanding what it really means.

Opening the doors of perception, to see, feel, know, and communicate with your heart offers the healing connection we are all seeking in social distance and isolation. Through our hearts, we can connect to our sisters and brothers wandering through life in strange cities. We can eliminate the distance between ourselves and the ancestors, giving them back their burdens and receiving their blessings. We can cease being isolated from our own inner spark of divinity. Spiritual resources abound and can support us when we pause to stop colliding and begin to authentically connect. 

In the words of Kitty O’Meara,

“And the people stayed home. And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still. And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently. And the people healed.

“And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.

“And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.”